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Video: The Secret Lives of Boys

The pressure to "act like a man," boys' social power dynamics, and how to raise emotionally healthy sons

Published on: September 16, 2014

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Q&A with Rosalind Wiseman, author of Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World.

Does your son clam up when you ask him about his day? Do you sense he’s having friend issues, but don’t know how best to support him? What do boys want and need from their parents?

Get tips on breaking through the stereotypes to help your son grow up healthy and emotionally strong.

Topics covered in the video:

  • Why boys feel pressured to “act like a man”
  • Power dynamics within boys' friend groups
  • What do boys expect from their mothers?
  • How fathers can help boys navigate friendships
  • How to help boys make repairs when they've done something wrong


Rosalind WisemanAbout Rosalind Wiseman

Rosalind Wiseman burst onto the scene in 2009 with her groundbreaking book Queen Bees and Wannabees: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World. This book was the basis for the movie Mean Girls.

Turning her attention to boys, in 2013 Wiseman published Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World. In addition, she published a free companion e-book for high school boys, entitled The Guide: Managing Douchebags, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You Want.

Wiseman’s goal is to help communities shift the way we think about children and teens’ emotional and physical wellbeing. As a teacher, thought leader, author and media spokesperson on bullying, ethical leadership, the use of social media and media literacy, she is in constant dialogue and collaboration with educators, parents, children and teens.

About The Bear Creek School

The Bear Creek School is an independent pre-K-12 Christian college prepatory co-ed day school located in Redmond, Washington. 

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