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Should your child play just one sport? |
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Written by Teresa Wippel
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Aug 01, 2004 |
It's a growing trend in youth athletics:
Children deciding at an early age -- sometimes as young as 10 or 11 --
to specialize in one sport. But is it the right thing for your child?
While children used to simply go outside and play, their days are now
filled with organized sports practices and games that become more
focused and intense, moving up from recreational leagues to select
programs as the years pass. Sports that used to be relegated one season
are now played all year. Teens who used to play three sports in high
school now are lucky to find the time to play two because of year-round
practices and games.
Choosing one sport is certainly easier on the lives of busy children
and their parents: no need to deal with overlapping seasons,
conflicting game schedules and pressure from coaches who think their
sport is the most important one. But youth coaches and sports
psychologists say that for most kids, early sports specialization is a
bad idea that results in emotional burnout and less well-rounded
athletes.
Specialization is a relatively new phenomenon that reflects society's
emphasis on a child's early development and success, says Frank Smoll,
Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and
co-author of a book entitled "Sports and Your Child," available through
Warde Publishers.
Smoll calls it "a popular myth" that you can identify talent early and
capitalize on that through early specialization. "What you are doing is
cutting kids off from developing a wide range of developmental skills,"
he notes. "That is what makes a good athlete."
Unfortunately, most of the pressure to specialize comes from parents
and coaches, says Chris Bown, head girls basketball coach at Lakeside
School in Seattle, who also coaches an AAU high school girls' team.
"Kids sports is not about kids anymore," he says. "I see more and more
coaches saying to kids, "You really have to work at this sport only to
be good."
Bown says that some parents push their children into one sport early in
the hope their youngster will eventually earn a college athletic
scholarship. That's an unrealistic hope for most -- "there are a lot
more scholarship dollars in academic areas than in athletics," he adds.
"I had the dad of one high school player say to me, 'We didn't put any
college money away for her. This is her shot.' Can you imagine what
kind of pressure that puts on the kid?"
According to Smoll, children who specialize early are often channeled
into sports that don't match their abilities, setting up a cycle of
failure that inhibits them from trying other sports. In addition, some
kids physically mature later than others, and need the wide range of
developmental experiences to help them acquire fine motor skills. "When
there is early specialization, late maturers are likely to fail," he
adds.
Early specialization is "often associated with an over-emphasis on
winning," he notes. "Kids know that the objective is to become a better
athlete so they can win more. But sports for kids are more of a
developmental experience as opposed to a win-at-all-costs experience.
You don't sacrifice the developmental welfare of a child for a win-loss
record."
The fact remains that juggling practices and games for more than one
sport -- especially sports at the select level -- is a challenge for
both children and their parents. Take 12-year-old Maya Marder, a select
soccer and basketball player who has been playing both sports since she
was 5 years old -- and has no intention of choosing one.
"If I'm playing soccer, it's helping me in basketball because I am
becoming faster," says Maya, who just finished sixth grade at Eastridge
Elementary in Woodinville. "I think at some time I will choose between
one of the two, but right now I am having too much fun and I am just
too in love with both sports to quit one."
Maya's father, Seattle dentist Mitch Marder, says that the pressure of
playing two different select-level sports at the same time is a
challenge for the entire family. "The demands on our time are
constant," he notes.
"Often, we are trying to get her to two practices on the same evening,
rushing from one to the other, changing clothes in the car and having a
snack along the way. Sometimes, she has to miss something -- it is just
too much for her and us to try to do it all," says Marder, who also has
an older daughter involved in select sports.
It's important for children to decide if or when to specialize, with
adult guidance, Smoll concludes. "Parents need to be facilitators for
their children's sports experiences, so that kids have buy-in to the
choices being made."
Teresa Wippel is the mother of two children involved in select sports and is also the managing editor of ParentMap.
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