You've just found out you're pregnant, and well-meaning friends are
already telling you that Fido and Fluffy have got to go. Old wives'
tales abound about babies and pets, from the ridiculous "a cat will
suck the baby's breath" to the plausible "the baby will develop
allergies." The truth is, babies and pets can coexist -- and, as
research shows, often benefit from doing so.
For parents of a new baby, life will change dramatically as you adjust
to the new routines and needs of an infant. The same holds true for the
family pet. If your pet has never encountered an infant, it's a good
idea to introduce the animal to one long before baby arrives. If
possible, invite friends with babies to spend an afternoon at your
home, exposing your pet to those special sounds and smells that only
babies make. If baby's room will be off limits to your pet, start
restricting access now, so the animal does not equate the new rules
with the baby. A baby gate will keep out most dogs; a screen door will
deter cats.
Animals need not be restricted for fear of allergic reactions. A study
published in the Journal of the American Medical Association in 2002
found that children raised with two or more pets had a reduced risk of
developing allergies by 50 percent or more. And, according to the
study, babies are just as likely to be allergic to dust or mold. So if
symptoms persist, a pediatric allergist should be consulted before
automatically getting rid of a pet.
Preparing for baby's arrival
Before baby arrives, start to pull back on the time spent with your pet
to accustom it to a baby-centric schedule. Take your pet to the
veterinarian for a check-up and make sure vaccinations are up to date.
Spay or neuter your pet to reduce the possibility of aggression. Daily
brushing will minimize pet hair around the house, and trimmed nails
help avoid accidental scratches. If a different family member will be
assuming responsibility for the pet after the baby's arrival, start
that routine as early as possible.
Let the pet sniff and explore a blanket or clothing that has been in
contact with the baby before he or she comes home from the hospital. If
mom has been the main pet care giver, it's helpful to have her enter
the house without the babe in arms, so she can greet the pet one on
one. Introduce the baby cautiously, but without fear. Praise the pet
for appropriate behavior.
Dogs and cats are the pets most affected by the addition of a new baby
-- and vice versa. With each, there are specifics that can help make
the transition go more smoothly.
The canine factor
If you have never formally trained your dog, enroll in a basic
obedience class immediately. If your older dog went through the process
years ago, take a refresher course. Nancy Peterson, issues specialist
with The Humane Society of the United States, notes, "Training and
socialization are the important factors. The pet needs to be exposed to
all kinds of things so they can learn not to be frightened." Training
gives you better control over your dog. Commands such as "sit," "stay,"
"off," and "leave it" will be invaluable in helping your dog learn
proper behavior around your baby.
Dogs are pack animals and very aware of their position. The new baby
will knock your dog down a peg, so it's important to use positive
reinforcement when training and disciplining your dog. If your dog is
fearful, easily excited, or exhibits other undesirable traits, such as
food aggression, you should consider a few sessions with an animal
behaviorist. These certified specialists can be essential in helping
your dog adjust to its change in status. Peterson recommends finding a
behaviorist who will visit your home and observe the dog on its own
turf. Steve Ramey, manager of the Animal Behavior Society, says, "Your
veterinarian is your best resource for finding a behaviorist as he or
she is most likely to know who is reputable in your area."
Dog toys often resemble baby toys. A dog that loves to chew up its own
stuffed animals will want baby's toys as well and won't know the
difference. Before your baby arrives, switch to dog-specific toys, such
as a Kong® or Nylabone®, to help avoid confusion. A dog that responds
to "leave it" can be taught which toys are off limits.
The feline factor
Cats come with their own set of baby-specific issues. Consummate
heat-seekers, they will be attracted to a warm baby in a cozy crib. And
although "breath sucking" is not an issue, it's best to restrict the
cat's access to the baby's room without adult supervision. It's also smart to apply
double-sided tape to the surfaces in the baby's room, as cats avoid
sticky surfaces and will steer clear.
The commotion that comes with a new baby can be stressful to some cats
and cause them to exhibit undesirable behavior, such as spraying urine
or hiding. Feliway®, a product available at vets' offices that is
similar to a plug-in air freshener, emits a "neutral cat pheromone"
that can help calm a stressed cat.
As baby grows
Once your infant is mobile, new precautions are necessary.
Dogs will camp out under a highchair hoping for dropped food -- great
for clean-up, but be wary of dogs that are able to jump or stand high
enough to reach food in baby's fingers. It's essential that your dog be
trained to respond to "off" in this context. Dogs also need to be
trained not to snatch food or toys from a toddler's grasp.
Pet food and water bowls should be kept out of baby's reach -- and the
same goes for litter boxes. If you have a sandbox or sensory table for
your baby or toddler, it should be kept covered when not in use.
Adult supervision is a necessity when babies and pets interact. Babies
have a natural affinity for animals and will instinctively grab, yank
or poke, which could result in a warning nip or scratch. Teach the baby
to treat the pet gently, and a lifelong friendship will result.
Worth the effort
Gail Melson, Ph.D., professor emeritas in the Department of Child
Development and Family Studies at Purdue University, makes the case for
babies and pets coexisting. "Animals are a lively, living presence in a
house ... adding a very rich source of interest," says Melson. She
notes that tactile stimulation is also a plus. "You have that very soft
fur for contact comfort that is very pleasing to babies."
In her book Why the Wild Things Are: Animals in the Lives of Children,
Melson stresses the benefits of pets on a child's emotional
development. "Many animals can form, very early, an attachment with a
very young child and the child can reciprocate that in return. ... the
pet provides play opportunities at the child's level and gives the
child leadership opportunities -- especially with dogs."
The reward is a child who grows into an empathetic adult. Melson notes,
"Research suggests that caring for animals is a key childhood
experience. It's especially true as family sizes have become smaller.
Without always having a baby around, there aren't a lot of
opportunities for children to practice nurturing -- trying to help
another, more vulnerable creature along."
In the long run, it will be worth the effort to help your pet adjust to
the new family member. Your pet and your child will thank you for it.
Andrea Leigh Ptak has written about the human-animal bond for Delta Society's Interactions
magazine, American Girl and Stars & Stripes. She introduced her own
baby to a household with two dogs and two cats 12 years ago, with
successful results.
Babies and Pets Resources
The Humane Society of the United States offers a downloadable brochure with advice on introducing your pet and new baby. www.hsus.org/pets
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