Parenting | Tweens + Teens | Ages 15–18

Preparing Your Teen for Adulthood

How to cultivate a purposeful mindset in your budding adult

Somewhere in the midst of final exams, prom, Friday night sporting events and texting with friends, American teenagers are setting a course for their future. They’ve been asked a thousand times, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Now, as they approach adulthood, it’s almost show time. For some, the path is clear while for many (most!) others, it’s a colossal question mark. No wonder recent surveys are showing that teens are more stressed than adults!

The good news is that parents can play an extremely beneficial role at this pivotal time in their teens’ lives. Through effective coaching and affirmation, we can help our teens navigate these years of uncertainty with confidence and purpose. We can help them answer the fundamental questions of who they are, what do they have to offer and what are their opportunities.

Buried treasure

Every child is unique and filled with treasure (aka assets) to offer the world. Unfortunately, most people — adults sometimes included — don’t have a complete and accurate understanding of their value and all of their assets. Some assets are obvious, but in other cases, the treasure lies buried beneath the surface. This is a huge issue during adolescence when teens are often planning their future through a blurry windshield.

Parents, as your teen’s biggest fan, this is where you come in. You can help mine your child’s treasure by inventorying his or her assets. Sit down one-on-one with your teen and talk through his or her strengths. By doing so, you’ll improve your teen’s self-awareness and self-confidence, as well as provide a clearer vision for the future.

One way to facilitate this conversation is by having your teen develop his or her personal balance sheet. This tool helps identify and inventory an individual’s assets through self-assessments, feedback from others and surveys. See an example. This balance sheet offers powerful insights for helping plan your teen’s future. Plus, it’s fun to complete!

Cultivating a purposeful mindset

Adolescence is also a time to begin considering how we’ll offer ourselves and our talents to positively impact the world. Life purposes are generally cause-driven (e.g. curing a disease, educating disadvantaged youth, sheltering the homeless, cleaning the planet, protecting our country) or skill-driven (e.g., athletes, artists, mathematicians, designers). Some of the most powerful are a blend of both.

Importantly, purposes are not always tied to our careers. After all, some of our most significant work comes through community service and family management! Questions to ask your teen and yourself:

  • What causes am I most passionate about?

  • What problems would I most like to solve?

  • What inspires me the most?

  • What brings me the greatest joy and sense of fulfillment?

  • Whose life would I most like to emulate and why?

  • What are my special gifts and talents?

  • Where can my skills have the greatest potential impact?

  • What experience has had the greatest influence on me?

By helping our children discover their uniqueness and value and by training them to be purposeful, we give them a gift of a lifetime. And,when we see them live it out, there’s nothing more fulfilling in the world.

Originally published on the LifeSmart Blog

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