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10+ Classic Books That Help Early Readers Learn About Friendship

Kids are never too young to understand and explore the foundations of friendship

Bryony Angell

Published on: February 09, 2024

Three kids lying on their stomachs in a library looking at a book together

One of life’s great pleasures is the experience of friendship. Friendship is built from components that are critical to living in the world — listening, trusting, finding similarities, accepting differences, sharing joy and frustration, learning how to resolve conflict and creating memories.

For instance, when my son was young, he never articulated a definition of friendship, but he sensed how his friendships enriched his life. Social contact with peers and trusted adults taught him about himself as a person — his fears, his strengths, his opinions — as well as provided him direction for navigating an ever more complicated world.

Learning how to be a friend doesn’t happen in a vacuum — as parents, the interactions we have with our friends are important models. But we also have tools: great books to read aloud to our children about the joys and challenges of friendship. From initiating the first “Hello” to the experience of being a third wheel, the stories in these books encourage early readers ages 4–8 to develop critical social skills.

Want to Play Trucks?” by Ann Stott

Jack and Alex meet at the playground almost every morning to play. Jack likes to play with trucks, and Alex likes dolls. Can they find a way to play together?

This sweet story of friendship shows readers that kids can connect even when they like to play in different ways. Through compromise and a common interest — ice cream! — Jack and Alex are a great example of friends learning to accept each other. 

"Cover of the book "Want to Play Tricks?""
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A Friend for Henry” by Jenn Bailey 

This 2020 Schneider Family Honor Book told from the perspective of a boy on the autism spectrum is a beautiful celebration of the magic of friendship. Henry is looking for a friend who will listen, share and like the same things. But Henry is having a hard day. Will he ever find a friend? This book beautifully centers on a neurodiverse child and is a great way for readers to consider, and grow their understanding of, a different experience of the world. 

"The cover of the book "A Friend for Henry""
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I Walk with Vanessa” by Kerascoët 

This book is inspired by real events and follows the complex feelings of helplessness and anger that come when a classmate is bullied and the simple act of kindness and forgiveness that inspired an entire community to get involved. This simple picture book has no words and creates the perfect opportunity for you and your child to use your own words to describe what is happening. Children who are still learning to read and look at this book independently and discover the power of friendship and community again and again. 

"Cover of "I walk with Vanessa""
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 “Yo! Yes?” by Chris Raschka

What is the first step in making a friend? In this story, two boys meet in the street and the more assertive one calls out a friendly “Yo!” to the other. Thus begins an exchange between two very different personality types, both keen to continue a mostly one-word conversation. The shyer of the two is gradually drawn out by the more gregarious boy, and eventually, the pair strides off together shouting the “Yo! Yes!” of the title, established as new pals.

The book shows how easily responsive other children are to an initial greeting, and also demonstrates to a more reticent child how he might respond.

"Yo Yes book cover"
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Fancy Nancy and the Boy from Paris” by Jane O’Connor, illustrated  by Robin Preiss Glasser

“Fancy Nancy” is a series of early-reader books that feature different adventures of the whimsical and artsy title character Nancy. In this story, Nancy befriends the new boy in class who is reputed to be from Paris. Nancy projects her imagination of his French heritage onto the new boy, and he patiently humors her as she invites him to play, with images of the Eiffel Tower dancing before her eyes.

When it turns out he is from Paris, Texas, they both must deal with the embarrassment of the misunderstanding ... but not for long. Along the way, they have established other things in common that happily override any disappointment stemming from her initial assumption.

"Fancy Nancy cover "
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Zelda and Ivy: Keeping Secrets” by Laura McGee Kvasnosky

“Zelda and Ivy” is another early-reader series about two sisters and their neighbor friend Eugene. In the title story, elder sister Zelda tells both Ivy and Eugene separately the same innocuous “secret,” swearing each to keep it to themselves. When later Ivy and Eugene reveal the same secret to each other, some challenges and learning ensue.

The story ends happily with transparency among the three characters, but it introduces the complexity that can arise from multiple loyalties. It is both a gift and a burden to carry a secret, and this story introduces this concept without imposing judgment either way.

"Zelda and Ivy cover"
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Days With Frog and Toad” by Arnold Lobel

Of all the Frog and Toad books featuring this enduring pair of friends (the first book came out in 1970), this book, in particular, offers powerful lessons about friendship. The story “Alone,” for example, shows how two friends, accustomed to being together, each deal with Frog’s need for solitude one afternoon. 

Toad eventually learns, after a disastrous misadventure to reach Frog on his day of solitude, that his worry is unfounded. The message imparted is one of respect for space and trusting in the benign intent within a friendship.

"Cover of "Days with Frog and Toad""
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Elmer and Snake” by David McKee

Elmer the patchwork elephant stands out among other elephants due to his colorful checkerboard skin. In this story, he is teased because of it. The other elephants plot to play a trick on him, and Elmer is rescued by his friend Snake, who alerts Elmer to their ruse. Together, Snake and Elmer turn the tables on the others, in a playful and clever way that unifies everyone in the end in a game of tickling.

Elmer and Snake demonstrate loyalty and teamwork as friends to tackle a challenge together, without antagonizing anyone. Reliance on and commitment to each other in friendship are the foundations of trust.

"Cover of "Elmer and Snake""
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A Bargain for Frances” by Russell Hoban, illustrated by Lillian Hoban

In this story, Frances the badger’s urge for one-upmanship over her neighbor friend Thelma teaches them both a lesson about telling the truth and forgiving each other. When Thelma tricks Frances into selling her china tea set, Frances is hurt that she was hoodwinked by her so-called friend. She tricks Thelma in turn, and the latter then feels the shame earlier felt by Frances.

However, the hurt of both is short-lived, as Frances quickly discovers that there is little victory in getting even — she’d rather have a friend and forget about settling scores. Thelma agrees to the truce and the story ends with their friendship restored.

"Cover of "A Bargain for Frances""
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Flabbersmashed About You” by Rachel Vail, illustrated by Yumi Heo

The classic friendship is between two people. Very often, however, a third person can enter the perceived perfect union, and thereby create upset, whether intentional or not. In this story, Katie’s best friend Jennifer decides to play with another child during recess, leaving Katie alone and distraught. Katie is so preoccupied with her feelings of betrayal that she doesn’t notice the approach of another classmate, the shy Arabella, who is looking for a friend of her own to play with.

Katie learns that her abandonment by Jennifer — however painful — created an opportunity for a new friendship with Arabella to develop. Though Katie is disappointed by her loss, she welcomes Arabella’s comforting gesture and learns a lesson about the importance of being open to new friendships.

"Cover of “Flabbersmashed About You”"
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Let’s Be Enemies” by Janice May Udry, illustrated by Maurice Sendak

The title of this short book allows for the possibility of differences to enter a friendship. Friends one day, enemies the next; children can know that social dynamics change — and that is just fine. John and James are friends who decide to be enemies after John becomes fed up with James always wanting to be the boss. John ends the friendship ... for all of one minute.

That break is all the two friends need to reset, and then they are back to being pals. Sometimes friends just need a break from one another!

"Book cover for Let's be Enemies. Drawing of two boys looking at each other with disgust "
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A special thank you to Mary Lynn Potter, retired Shoreline Public Schools librarian, and Mary Elliott, staff bookseller at Secret Garden Books in Ballard, for their book suggestions for this article.

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