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Seattle Educators Help New Parents Find Their Village

Happy Babies brings families together for education, support and community

Imagine a bright room filled with new parents. They back in the front door, pulling their strollers in after. They instinctively bounce to calm the babies hanging in fabric carriers from their chests as they chat with others. They, like you, are sleep-deprived, confused, frustrated or blissful depending on how the day or night before unfolded. They, like you, are trying to navigate that intense first year, which is full of so many challenges and changes. They, like you, seek advice, support and community.

That's why they're here. In this blanket-strewn room at a birth center in South Lake Union sit two baby care experts devoted to helping parents figure out what the heck it is they're doing. Meet Happy Babies Parent Education

Happy Babies facilitators Emma Summer and Amelia McGee | Photo credit: Pamela Minett, Happy Babies

A drop-in educational support group hosted at Center for Birth on Tuesday mornings, Happy Babies caters to parents, from pregnancy through their child's first 12 months. The group is a led by Emma Summer, a birth and postpartum doula and lactation educator, and Amelia McGee, a parent coach and educator with a background in public health. Both women are also mothers and often use their own life experiences when offering perspective and guidance. 

At a typical Happy Babies group some people greet each other like old friends while others meet for the first time. Infants sleep quietly in their car seats while older babies crawl and play in the middle of the room. Squeals of delight float up like bubbles, interjecting the stream of conversation that ebbs and flows between questions, laughter and, sometimes, tears. It's part classroom, part support group, part pep rally. 

What makes a Happy Baby?

McGee sums up the group's mission in three words: “Education, support and community.” Summer chimes in: Happy Babies is accessible. Company sponsorships by local companies like Grand Central Bakery and the Center for Birth help keep participant costs low: $16 for day of or $10 if you register a day ahead of class.

Each 90-minute session focuses on topics including bottle- and breast feeding, infant development, self-care and sleep. McGee and Summers lead the group but want the parents to guide the agenda by asking each other questions, describing challenges and offering up ideas and advice.

“We really want people to feel like anybody who’s doing it any way is welcome,” says Summer. “People are only enriched by being able to learn from each other if they are doing things differently.”

McGee and Summer prefer to think of themselves as advisors rather than group leaders. “We see ourselves as curators of information," says Summer. Over the last few years, she explains, fewer people turn solely to the internet for parenting advice. “It’s too overwhelming,” she says. 

Happy Babies showed me that some of the craziest parts of motherhood are also the most common. The group made me feel like I had some people in the trenches with me.

A Happy Babies parent, Elizabeth Dewar, puts it this way: “I often find myself overwhelmed with information about parenting and babies, unsure what will work for me or how true each piece of advice is. Amelia and Emma have always answered my questions using personal insight and evidence-based information.” 

That's helpful, particularly when turning to the other likely parenting expert in your life — your pediatrician — isn't an easy option. “People expect their pediatrician to help with parenting choices more than they are qualified or have time to do," says Summer. She and McGee help fill the void and often, so do the people at a Happy Baby group. “That’s a gap that your peers can help fill, too,” says Summer. At a meeting, parents with older kids often jump in with advice or assurance that whatever phase their fellow parent is facing will pass.

The power of community

That kind of reassurance is hard to come by in a parenting culture that McGee says often second-guesses itself. “There is a culture of perfectionism about parenting in Seattle,” she says. She and Summer want to break that down by helping parents understand that there is no perfect way to raise a baby and that if what you are doing is working for you, you should trust that. 

“We want parents to reclaim as much joy as they can about being with their children," says Summer. “We try to answer questions from that viewpoint.” Children are very resilient, she adds, and you’re not going to ruin them as easily as you think. 

In their experience, those lessons give parents confidence. “They showed me that some of the craziest parts of motherhood are also the most common," says Happy Babies parent Kathleen Donahoe. "They made me feel like I had some people in the trenches with me.” 

There's joy in seeing one parent provide another with an idea, an answer or just confirmation that he or she is doing a great job, says McGee. “When you’re able to get that exact nugget of support that somebody needs at the right time, that’s what’s magical about this group,” she says. "Those little tiny moments of support can change everything.”

As a recent week’s group concludes, McGee and Summer encourage the parents to take a moment to enjoy each other’s company. Play dates are made. Babies are fawned over. Names — not just the children's — are exchanged. These connections and collective wisdom nurture and sustain happy parents. And happy parents tend to bring up happy babies. 

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