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Getting to Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens and Teens

An exclusive ParentMap book by Laura S. Kastner, Ph.D. and Jennifer Wyatt

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Published on: June 01, 2018

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NEW — updated and expanded edition!

A practical, realistic and ultimately reassuring guide, "Getting to Calm" helps you navigate one of the most challenging aspects of parenting today: Staying calm and clear-headed with teenagers. Drs. Laura S. Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt provide clear and useful tools for parents, giving them effective new ways forward. The book covers 14 of the most common hot-button situations that arise during the teen years, including:

  • When your teen is rude and sarcastic
  • When your smart teen gets into trouble with social media (NEW)
  • When teen problems drive a wedge between you and your spouse
  • When your teen is acting like a spoiled brat
  • When you’re worried you’re losing your teen
  • When teens are mean

With humor, wisdom and a deep understanding of the teenaged brain, Drs. Kastner and Wyatt provide clear and useful tools for parents, giving them effective new ways to manage their own emotions in the heat of the moment  with their teen while maintaining — and even gaining — closeness.

"Getting to Calm" is the first book ever to address the crucial issue of emotional regulation for parents dealing with difficult tween and teen issues – and it does so with wit, wisdom and a deep understanding of breakthroughs in brain science.

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Hear author Dr. Laura Kastner's appearance on National Public Radio.

What readers are saying about 'Getting to Calm'

"An ideal guide book for parenting teens, Getting to Calm shows how emotional intelligence starts in the home. Parents are given valuable strategies for managing their own emotions and tackling challenging situations, all with a keen focus on the critical importance of maintaining a strong parent-teen relationship. Indispensable!"

-John Gottman, Ph.D., renowned marriage expert and founder of The Gottman Institute

"This is a smart book. Filled with accessible science and illuminating stories, Getting to Calm offers sound advice for not only staying sane as a parent, but navigating the waters of your teen's life with clarity and skill so that both you and your adolescent will benefit. A wonderful contribution to every parent's library of support. Bravo!"

-Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., author of "No Drama Discipline," The Whole-Brain Child" and "The Yes Brain"

"Required reading for any parent who struggles with their teen. Here is true insight into the mental and emotional world of adolescents. Kastner and Wyatt offer parents useful, step-by-step tools for managing their own emotions in the face of teenaged chaos."

-T. Berry Brazelton, MD and Joshua Sparrow, MD, Harvard Medical School

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