OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Embracing Negative Emotions
Your teen says: “I hate my brother for barging into my room. I wish he had never been born.”
You say: “Hating siblings sometimes, especially when they barge into your territory, makes sense to me. Did you talk to him about it?”
Your teen says: “I don’t have any friends. School sucks.”
You say: “Can you tell me more about that?”
Your teen says: “I’m never good enough for you. You expect me to be perfect.”
You say: “I see it differently, but you must have reasons for saying that. What’s up?”
For more excellent comebacks, visit the List of Listening One-Liners; and read more about “The Role of Emotion Coaching” in Wise-Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens, in chapter 2: Self-Control.