OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Don’t Just Do Something — Stand There!
“Sometimes I hate my kids!”
You see this sentence on a wave. Or maybe just HATE. There it is, in neon letters on a wave. HATE appears on a big wave that rises up and then floats away.
“I can’t take it anymore! I feel like my teen is a horrible brat!”
You see HORRIBLE BRAT written on a cloud. Observe this cloud. Watch it pass. If your emotional arousal keeps producing this intrusive thought, ride the wave several more times while breathing deeply.
Test your “Emotion IQ” and read more about the nature of emotions in Wise-Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens, chapter 5: Emotional Flourishing.