Policy Review: Evaluating Your Authoritative Parenting
Laura S. Kastner, Ph.D., author of Wise-Minded Parenting
OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Policy Review
Evaluating the authority component of your authoritative parenting
Authoritative parenting is composed of warmth, authority and respect for the psychological autonomy of children. Authority includes making and enforcing rules, maintaining parent-child boundaries, and effective disciplinary measures. Are you satisfied with your ability to:
Make and enforce rules about homework, chores, profanity, meals, socializing?
Establish financial policies with your teens and stick with them?
Monitor the whereabouts of your kids are and have curfews?
Give consequences for infractions that result in behavior change?
Consider one area of improvement for the week.Make it small or you may not do it! How about starting an allowance and making them responsible for some purchase category that you are noticing is creeping into a chronic doll-out without limits? Or a policy where if they don’t call you back within 10 minutes on their cell, they lose the privilege for a day? Or, do you need better supervision of social media access? Consider getting your teen’s input (not whether to have a policy, but what the parameters are).
Read more about the research showing the lifelong benefits to teens of “Authoritative Parenting” and take the quiz in Wise-Minded Parenting,chapter2: Self-Control.