OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): True Grit
Does your teen have stamina for completing projects? Do you insist that she do so? People with true grit approach achievement like a marathon in which they keep going when others might flag, and they bounce back from setbacks and remove obstacles along the way. It’s hard to judge teens overall, because puberty and brain development changes make them naturally moody, impulsive and very vulnerable to sensation-seeking instead of sustaining effort on difficult tasks. Also, there is probably a DNA component (e.g. some kids are naturally more compulsive!). But parents can still help the cause by finding hobbies that their kids have a natural interest in and passion for, and insisting that they stick with long-term commitments despite setbacks. Are there extracurricular pursuits that reflect that your teen is developing some grit? Are there adjustments to their life routines that you want to make to address this agenda?
Read more about the research on grit and take the quiz, “Does Your Child Have Grit?” in Wise-Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens, chapter 1: Secure Attachment, and about “Materialism and Narcissism” in chapter 6: Strong Character.