OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Buddha Meets Einstein
An inspiring (paraphrased) quote of Albert Einstein: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. What sloppy parenting habit do you have that you knowis not helping you get what you want out of your kid, but you keep doing it anyway (e.g. nagging about chores or homework or sibling squabbling)?
One of the principles in Buddhism relates to non-striving. This principle refers to preventing yourself from attaching to outcome. This does not mean that you don’t have goals, values and efforts of self-improvement. It does mean that you are trying to focus on being in the moment and not trying to change stuff you can’t change in your teens (their attitudes, feelings, identity development). We all want good things to happen and good feelings. But that “gotta have it!” generates a lot of grief. Just this week, switch your focus from reacting to observing (a lot more).