OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Emotional Trickery
This exercise is suggested to give you a pause to think about your own reactions. Reflect on a recent situation in which you lashed out at your teen, and make a note of the situation, the emotions and the thoughts. Can you see how your negative thoughts may have fueled negative feelings, and vice versa? Your feelings may be understandable and valid, but that doesn’t make them helpful. And remember: Just because your kid is acting like a brat who doesn’t love or appreciate you, doesn’t mean that it’s so.
Read more about “Controlling the Big Emotions of Fear and Desire: A Brain Tour” in Wise-Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens, in chapter 2: Self-Control.