OWL (Offer of Wise-Minded Learning): Model Emotional Intelligence
Recognize the emotion: I know I barked at you about chores because of my irritability.
Understand the cause: I stayed up too late last night and haven’t exercised in days.
Label the feeling: I was crabby. I’m sorry I was rude when I barked at you.
Express feeling: I’m sorry for nagging. I should be consistent with my health habits.
Regulate emotion: The best way for me to take care of my grumpiness is to take a brisk walk right now. Dinner will be a bit delayed.
Read more about “The RULER Approach” in Wise-Minded Parenting: 7 Essentials for Raising Successful Tweens + Teens, in chapter 5: Emotional Flourishing.